MockingJay2015

April 19, 2013 3:29 am *manner

April 19, 2013 3:27 am I agree for the most part. Even other cosplayers are viscous when it comes to bullying or making judgements etc...The internet is obviously where most of that happens but I have witnessed some very tense moments between cosplayers in person. It is kind of sad when these things happen within the cosplay community. It's not just "outside" anymore.

April 19, 2013 3:23 am @Jacksondanger33 Well sir, as and English teacher you fail. No where in my response was I trying to "trump" the author. No where did I say my opinion is above hers. Because what I wrote was in fact, an opinion and nothing more. With all due respect, I don't know what she said in the "above comments" because my statement was my own and not based on any others comments so I didn't feel the need to read every single comment. Her intentions for writing this article were good ones. Any moron can understand that. Just because I disagree with an article and how it was organized and put out there in no way means I am trying to "trump" anyone....It is a simple response and for the most part no one has accused me of being a troll etc... just for disagreeing. So if you are going to respond do so in a more educated manor. Thank you for your response.

April 19, 2013 12:51 am I am very much aware that she didn't say “if you are suffering from low self esteem, bulimia, or depression then here is what you should do!”. My response was an overview of what I read. It is how I interpreted the material. Which is why in my response I wrote that it was "made up and my own opinon.".... I also didn't use the word boastful, and that was not what I was saying OR how I interpreted it. My reaction was how I felt while reading it, and I stand by that. Like I said I'm glad she is happy now, but this article left alot of questions, and it just came off as a..... I really don't have a word for it. So I'm just going to stand by what I wrote. Thanks for your response.

April 18, 2013 10:04 pm Let me start by saying that I am going to try and not come off as rude here. I'll try and be as "intelligent" about this as possible. Secondly, I am genuinely happy that you feel better. However, I disagree with everything else in this article. There are a lot of things you mention you went through, but, did you ever try and get help? Anxiety can be helped with therapy and medication. How do I know this? I take anxiety medication when I need it, and I have spoken with doctors and counselors about it. Bulimia, well that just sucks and I'm sorry you thought that was a better idea than going to the gym....How did you parents support you? etc... You listed alot of things and didn't mention how you got over them, or sought help. Or did you get over them? The descriptors you use combined with your max weight of a whopping 180 pound.....is kinda offensive to me. I have been fighting weight issue with ALOT of people. I'm not the only one, and you are not the only one with weight issues. At my heaviest I was also 180 pounds. I am also 5'1. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism at 16 years old. I am now 26. That entire time, my mother would dog on me and call me fat to my face. Then this past year my own husband said he wasn't attracted to me anymore. But, I didn't refuse to go outside, and I didn't starve myself or throw up, my anxiety doesn't even stem from that. I continued to take my thyroid medicine, I started to eat healthier and I got on a damn treadmill. I never drowned myself in fabric, but I didn't cosplay anything skimpy because I have always dressed to my weight. However, even when I was 180 pounds I still cosplayed because I loved it. I cosplayed the characters I like despite my weight, and still had fun doing it because I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks anymore. I'm glad cosplay was an outlet for you to be comfortable, but the fact that you had to dress in a skin tight small cosplay to feel better about yourself once and for all is just......not good. It doesn't send a good message to younger people at all, nor to women who are struggling with weight issues. They read this article and think "oh she is just as sad as I am. Once I dress up as something skimpy and rely on OTHERS opinions I can feel better about myself......" Of course that is completely made up and my opinion, but still you get what I am trying to say. If there was no one to help you then I am truly sorry for you. That sucks. Support networks are very important and what you did was self destructive. At least, that is how you wrote it. You only got up to 180 pounds and talked like it was the end of the world. Think about the women who cosplay who are twice that weight. At 180 pounds you can still "hide it". How do you think they feel reading this? I would personally like to know. There are women who face 10x more than you ever did, and this article doesn't mention ANY of that. It's about how hard your life is and it just rubbed me the wrong way. I suppose if it was written in a way that mentioned other people with examples. It's just an article about you. So, if you are like this author WAS please get help. Tell your friends, or your family so long as its not your family that's tormenting you. Go to a counselor, a community center, your doctor, etc. It doesn't have to be a therapist, because therapist is such an ugly word anyway. lol Anorexia and bulimia are just stupid way's to deal with it. I know people are going to say "but its a mental disorder" Hey guess what. I had one of those and I got help, on my own.....If you are TRULY unahappy. The only one that can change that is YOURSELF. Not the opinions of others, not throwing up, not whining about it. Hard work and eating right is the only healthy way to fight weight.